So much has happened since my last post before Christmas. We went to Dallas, TX to spend Christmas with my sister and her family, not knowing that we had a wonderful Christmas present waiting for us. Our daughter had flown in from France on 12/15. She kept telling us that she would be back in the States in January, so we were very surprised to have her “pop” out of this huge gift wrapped box!!!!! We enjoyed being there to enjoy my sister’s 6 grandsons and see what Santa brought them. Many many memories were made. All the time we were in Dallas enjoying these boys, we kept wishing that we could be enjoying our granddaughter-not knowing that the best gift was yet to come!
When we got back home, my husband called our daughter-in-law to let her know that our daughter was here and to see if we could possibly have our granddaughter for a few days. It was then that we learned what had happened during our absence. On Christmas Eve the SO and our daughter-in-law had an argument (really they had been having trouble all along), our daughter-in-law decided to take a drive to cool off. When they came back to the house, they could not get in. The SO had all of the locks changed (obviously this had to have been done before Christmas Eve). She would not let our daughter-in-law and granddaughter back in the house to even get a change of clothes. She also would not let them have any of our granddaughter’s Christmas presents. Our daughter-in-law had $5 in her pocket and about 1/4 tank of gas. She could not get any money at an ATM because the SO had called and reported the debit card stolen. As the SO knew that we were going to be in Dallas for Christmas, she thought she had left them with no where to turn. She was wrong!! They were able to get to our daughter-in-law’s parents’ home in another town.
As if she had not done enough, the SO loaded her 2 children up and drove to where they were. She caused quite a scene and seemed to be only concerned that everyone think she was the “injured” party. All of this on Christmas Eve. I can only imagine how this made her 9 year old son feel. But I guess the only person of any importance in the SO’s mind was herself. Well, things backfired on her. Not only did our granddaughter have a good Christmas, her other grandparents and extended family were able to enjoy being with her without the SO. After Christmas, they went to the Gulf Coast for a few days. When they came back, we were able to get out granddaughter for several days. Needless to say, she had a big Christmas with us and our daughter. She never even knew that anything or anyone was missing.
Since that time, we have been able to have our granddaughter and have spent time with our daughter-in-law, her sister and her son. Not one time has our granddaughter mentioned the SO. If this person is mentioned our granddaughter doesn’t even react. That alone speaks volumes to how “important” this person was to her. When we take our granddaughter home, she no longer cries. She enjoys being with us but we can tell that she is happy to see her Mama when we take her home. The difference in our daughter-in-law is amazing. She no longer has anxiety attacks, she isn’t afraid of losing her daughter, and most importantly, she has realized that there is nothing wrong with her mental abilities.
She has so many options now and is taking her time before making any rash decisions. Everyone is encouraging her and letting her know how proud they are of and for her. When our daughter-in-law asked us if we knew why she “lost” her job with a local police dispatch, we told her that a friend had told us exactly what had happened and it had nothing to do with falling asleep on the job. The SO was the reason she had to resign. When our daughter-in-law had been sent to school for training which would have helped her advance, the SO drove there and caused a scene. She also would call or show up at the workplace and cause trouble. Why did she do this? Because she knew she would never be able to have a job like this with a future and she could not let our daughter-in-law succeed. Typical behaviour for a person with the SO’s problems.
We have been told about some sort of website she and/or her daughter have set up. From what we have heard, she is using our granddaughter’s name on this site (you DO NOT use a minor child’s name without the parent’s permission). She is claiming to have a “notarized paper giving her guardianship” (she has already had 3 attorneys tell her this paper is worthless). Any one with even a tiny bit of intelligence knows that guardianship only comes into play if something happens to the parent (plus, does anyone think for one second that a court would grant her guardianship over either set of grandparents?) Not once they looked into what she has done to her own children.
As additional proof of her true concern for this child and her welfare, she continues to do anything she can to cost our daughter-in-law money. She failed to pay the cable bill after kicking our daughter-in-law out. It now is at about $500 (cable,telephone & internet) and refuses to give our daughter-in-law the equipment to return to the cable company, another $500. She did text our daughter-in-law last weekend and tell her she was going to pay the bill as “it was the right thing to do”. She even sent a confirmation number and told our daughter-in-law that she could come by her job site to get the equipment. Later, she sent another text saying she had “torn her ACL while jumping on the trampoline with her children and was going to have to have surgery. Our daughter-in-law replied by asking her to let her know when she could get the cable equipment. I guess since our daughter-in-law didn’t offer to come take care of her and wasn’t in total distress about this “injury” the SO had to get back at her. She cancelled the payment for the cable bill. Does that not prove even more how the only important person in her mind is HER!!! Oh and as for the injury-in my opinion I don’t believe that for one second. Last Sunday it was cold and I doubt very seriously the SO even walked out of the house not to mention jumping on a trampoline. No, this is just another made up thing to try to gain attention and get our daughter-in-law back under her thumb. NOT GOING TO HAPPEN!!!! She is too happy and would never put her daughter back in that situation again.
Yes, the SO still has our granddaughter’s clothes, toys and special gifts but they can all be replaced. As a matter of fact, I have had a wonderful time buying her new clothes. At this time, there is nothing lacking in her life, she is loved, safe and being spoiled by her doting grandparents, aunts and uncles!
Well, I just wanted to bring you up to date and let you know that there is always hope that things will work out. Never in my wildest dreams would I have thought things would turn out like this. I guess it is like I told our attorney, when you turn it over to God, He doesn’t let you down.