I have not posted anything on this site in quite a while. I thought maybe I should share our success so other grandparents could realize that there is hope.
The last year has been one of the happiest since our son died. Our granddaughter is a permanent part of our everyday lives. Her mother has adjusted to a life that is no longer controlled by someone else. She has learned that she is capable of making decisions for herself and our granddaughter and that it is okay to be happy and to enjoy doing what she wants to do. She has a new job that has set hours and she has the freedom to make plans because once she leaves work she is truly “off” until the next morning.
In addition to our granddaughter, we also now have 3 “adopted” grandsons. One is in college, one in high school and the other in junior high. These 3 boys are a joy to us as well. Their mother has brought them up with manners and good work ethics. We truly enjoy having them as a part of our family.
Christmas will be wonderful, as our daughter will be home and we will all be together as a family. We have made plans that involve all of us, even the teen-age boys. So different from last year when we could not even bring ourselves to put up a tree.
I guess the most important thing I would like to pass on to each of you who are hurting, is to pray. When I was at my lowest point and could not see any way that things would work out, God was taking care of the situation. When I was going to church each Sunday and watching other grandparents with their children and grandchildren I never imagined that a year later I would be sitting in church with my granddaughter and my new grandsons.
Don’t give up on your quest to have a relationship with your grandchildren. They are worth all of the pain and heartache you are suffering and the rewards for that pain are unimaginable.
May your New Year bring you peace, joy and the happiness of a grandchild’s hug.